Thursday, December 30, 2010

A good movie? Soul Surfer...

SOUL SURFER is the inspiring true story of Bethany Hamilton, who lost her arm in a shark attack and courageously overcame all odds to become a champion surfer through the love of her family, sheer determination, and unwavering faith.
Dynamic Dads is always on the lookout for family-friendly movies. Check this one out in Spring of 2011...

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

UAE Condones Wife Beating

UAE Condones Wife and Child Beating So Long as Marks Aren't Left

October 19, 2010 11:51 PM EDT

In the United Arab Emirates' (UAE) highest judicial body, it has been deemed just fine for men to beat their wives and children. The only stipulation is that such beatings shouldn't leave marks.

Ruling Shows Strong Deference to Islamic Law

According to CBSNews, the ruling clearly shows a strong deference to Islamic law. The ruling was made based on a case that was heard earlier in the month, in which a man had beaten both his wife and adult daughter. He was said by the court to have crossed the law's line, because his wife had visible injuries in the beating.

"The beating left the wife with injuries to her lip and teeth and the 23-year-old daughter suffered bruises on her knees and hand. In ruling against the defendant in that case, Chief Justice Falah as Hajeri stated that there were conditions when domestic violence was acceptable."

Translation of Law Questionable

The laws translates like this. If a man hits his wife and/or minor children, it is condoned. However it is only considered acceptable if no marks are left. It doesn't specify if those marks need to be left where they could plainly be seen. For example, what if the marks were not visible? Is this considered acceptable by Islamic law?

Once a child reaches puberty, it is considered inappropriate for the father or husband to beat them. However children under that age may be beaten. The law, however, prefers to call it discipline.

It is beyond disgusting that laws like this one exist in this world in this day and age. It is devastating to think that women and children can be physically harmed by a husband or father for any reason whatsoever. Dynamic Dads strongly condemns these recent rulings.

Friday, September 10, 2010

Kindness in Marriage

The first command God gave mankind was to be fruitful and multiply (see Gen. 1:28). But fruitfulness involves more than merely growing physical fruit.

As a Christian, the Spirit of God has already been planted within you, now it's your job to cultivate the seed of His nature. And it is not going to be an easy thing to do all the time.

The farmer's seeds must push through a layer of dirt in order to reach the sunlight. That dirt outweighs that little seed, and it will have to struggle hard to break through. In the same manner, God's Spirit has to push through the dirt we call our flesh.

Our flesh may be innately selfish, rude and indulgent. The Spirit of God inside of us is none of those things. Thus, there is resistance; there is conflict. And in marriage, these can pose numerous problems in the way we communicate with our spouse.

Take the case of James, who comes home after a rough workday. The computer program he'd worked on around the clock for weeks wasn't running. After a tense meeting with his concerned boss, James headed home exhausted.

When he opened the door to greet his pregnant wife, he was confronted with the words, "I hope you won't work all hours of the day when the baby is born!" Without saying a word, James watched his wife set out the meal she had prepared hours earlier. He knew he was desperately in need of something, but couldn't put his finger on it.

Then there is Charlotte, a homeschooling mother of four, who also had a tough day. Shortly after her husband left for work, one child developed a fever combined with nausea.

After a stressful day of serving as both impromptu nurse and schoolteacher, Charlotte was preparing dinner when her husband entered and said with a smile, "This house looks like a disaster area. What did you do today?" Not returning the smile, Charlotte became defensive as she set the table. She also needed something, but felt too overwhelmed to express it.

What James and Charlotte needed was an act of kindness. James needed a hug and a "Boy, I'm glad to see you, you hard-working man." Charlotte needed her husband to notice her overwhelmed state and come to her aid.

Every spouse needs kindness daily. Many of us feel that life is like an overworked, fast-moving engine. In mechanical terms, an engine receives a constant supply of motor oil to prevent friction and overheating. Likewise, random and intentional acts of kindness lubricate marriage relationships, easing life's friction.

Hat tip: From Doug Weiss, Charisma Magazine

Monday, July 12, 2010

Twilight teeth for teen in Texas

Hey, Dad, would you allow your teenage daughter to get her teeth made into "fangs" because of the hit movie about Vampires? Click here to see the story:

Friday, June 11, 2010

Fathers Day -- 2010

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Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Daughters kill mother over cell phone?

Very sad story out of Atlanta, GA. Apparently, twin daughters killed their mother, after she tried to enforce discipline in their home. The girls might have even killed their mother because she took up their cell phones.

Friends not surprised twins charged in mom's death
By Christian Boone

The Atlanta Journal-Constitution

3:50 p.m. Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Just days after Jarmecca "Nikki" Whitehead was killed, many of her friends had already fingered a suspect, or suspects.

Their suspicions were confirmed Friday when the Conyers beautician's twin daughters, Tasmiyah and Jasmiyah, were arrested and charged with murder in their mother's Jan. 14 death. Whitehead was found in a pool of blood, beaten and stabbed repeatedly. The twins will be tried as adults.

"I never thought they were capable of murder before she died," said Whitehead's friend and former boss, Michelle Temple. "Who would think that? But after she was murdered, I knew it was them."

By all accounts, the 16-year-old girls had become difficult for their mother to handle. Once honor students and Girl Scouts, "Tas" and "Jas," as they were known, continually pushed boundaries, breaking rules and acting out whenever discipline was imposed.

"The girls wanted to do what they wanted to do," said Yucca Harris, Whitehead's best friend.

Tas and Jas had moved back home just eight days before their mother's death. They had been living with their elderly great-grandmother for about a year and a half following an incident in which they physically assaulted Whitehead, requiring police intervention, said Petrina Sims, owner of Simply Unique, a salon where Whitehead worked until her death.

Their great-grandmother had trouble reining the girls in, Whitehead's friends say.

"She's an 80-year-old woman," Harris said of Whitehead's grandmother. "[Tas and Jas] could get away with just about anything."

Temple told the AJC that the girls stole $200 from her and they'd also stolen money from their great-grandmother.

"The [great-grandmother] eventually had to get a dead-bolt for her bedroom," Temple said.

But friends say Whitehead, who raised the girls alone, was determined to start over with her daughters.

"The last night I saw her, she told me she was going to fight for those girls," said Harris, who was invited to a welcome home dinner Whitehead had for Tas and Jas five days before her death.

"They agreed to start over, to forgive and forget," Harris told the AJC. Harris said she had a long conversation with her friend's daughters that night, encouraging them to call her whenever they needed to talk.

"I thought I got through to them," Harris said.

Conyers Police Chief Gene Wilson said evidence processed in the GBI crime lab links the girls to their mother's slaying. E ven Jasmiyah's attorney, Rockdale public defender Owen Humphries, acknowledged, "I've got my work cut out for me."

Both girls have denied killing their mother, Humphries said. A grand jury is expected to hear their case June 7.

The twins had claimed they came home from school and discovered their mother's body. One of them flagged down a Rockdale County Sheriff's deputy who was in the neighborhood serving a warrant on an unrelated matter.

With no sign of forced entry, police suspected Whitehead knew her killer.

"There was a point soon after the murder when a lot of people became suspicious of the two girls," Chief Wilson told the AJC.

The girls have been separated "to keep them from comparing notes," Humphries said. One is in the Rockdale Youth Detention Center while the other was sent to Gwinnett's YDC. They're being held without bond.

Humphries told the AJC he's working to secure legal representation for Tasmiyah.

"They were just defiant," salon owner Sims said of the twins. "They had grown so wild in just a couple of years, like they were two different people. They weren't those sweet little girls anymore."

Thursday, April 01, 2010


Another series of sad stories out of the Dallas, Texas area after a 13-year old boy hung himself after being bullied. Please discuss the problem of bullying and being bullied with your sons and daughters.

Suicides open eyes to bullying after 13-year-old Joshua boy's death

By JESSICA MEYERS / The Dallas Morning News

A 13-year-old hangs himself in a Johnson County barn. An 8-year-old jumps out of a two-story school building in Houston. Nine Massachusetts teenagers face jail time after allegedly harassing a girl so mercilessly that she killed herself. These incidents, all of which took place in the past week, reframe the age-old phenomenon of the schoolyard bully.

Students are turning to suicide, experts say, as an escape from taunts that now continue beyond the school day through cyberspace. Such drastic responses, they say, reveal how an action once considered a rite of passage has turned into a public health issue.

"You used to get a reprieve every time you went home," said Beaux Wellborn, who helps lead the Bully Suicide Project, a Dallas effort started in November to address the surge in suicides. "Kids today don't get a reprieve. It's a constant cycle. Imagine waking up and getting a text message that someone hates you, then dealing with it at school and getting home to face it on Facebook and Instant Messenger."

Notions of suicide are also morphing, according to Wellborn, who dealt with routine catcalls and books thrown at his head in high school a decade ago. Suicide, he said, has become almost vogue. One bullied kid he worked with had made a suicide pact with another through an online chat room. "It's very honorable," Wellborn said.

Data does not exist to link suicides with bullying, although Wellborn's organization has counted four in the Dallas area this year. The most recent one occurred this weekend, when the Johnson County boy hanged himself in a barn.

There are others. A 15-year-old freshman at Cleburne High School killed himself last year after classmates teased him about his facial scars. They'd come from a car accident when he was toddler. Also last year, an 11-year-old Massachusetts boy hanged himself after enduring daily taunts of being gay. This year, a 15-year-old Irish high school student in Massachusetts, who had been tormented by peers, was found hanging in her stairwell. Nine teenagers were indicted on charges relating to her death this week.

Staying home in fear

News reports have drawn increased attention to the problem. But the National Education Association estimates that more than 160,000 children miss school every day because of fear of attack or intimidation by other students.

Technology and societal pressures may have changed, but mentalities haven't, said Marlene Snyder, the director of development for the Olweus Bully Prevention Program at Clemson University's Institute on Family and Neighborhood Life. Hence the imbalance.

"When I was a kid, I knew what I was doing would be reported back to mom," she said. "It's a different world out there now. Look at the more violent programming kids are watching, see how parents are stretched. And we're still saying, 'Sticks and stones will break your bones, but words will never harm you.' That's baloney."

Much of the blame, she said, lies with school officials who maintain a "kids will be kids" attitude. "You need a comprehensive, long-term program, stuff that is done year after year. You need policies that say if you choose to bully here, these are the consequences."

Most states, including Texas, have anti-bullying laws. But they range from comprehensive mandates that require school lessons to vague recommendations for district policy. Spurred by the recent suicides, the Massachusetts legislature is considering a law that would demand that schools report suspected incidents, that principals investigate and that classes be taught on bullying dangers.

Texas requires districts to establish a code of conduct prohibiting bullying and allows students to transfer schools for this reason.

Brenda High says that's not enough. Her 13-year-old son shot himself to death after relentless taunting from his classmates.

"I realized school districts really had no clue what to do," she said about the incident 12 years ago in Washington state. "Really there were no rules at all that would solve that problem." Since then, she's started Bully Police USA, which argues for heightened laws and school policies against bullying.

"Those schools where principals and leaders take responsibility to do something, the problem is solved," she said. "There are easy ways to fix it and take a proactive behavior."

Preventive push

Some North Texas districts are reflecting that newer preventive push.

James Caldwell, who has spent the past 10 years focusing on bullying prevention, was hired this year as Frisco ISD's student assistance coordinator. He meets with administrators and counselors to discuss effective strategies for combating the abuse, including emphasizing the role of the bystander. Signs on classroom walls detail rules relating to bullying. Starting at the kindergarten level, counselors are entering classrooms regularly to explain the difference between reporting trouble and tattling. And starting next year, students will sign contracts that say they understand the consequences of bullying

"You just see that if you're talking about bullying, kids listen," Caldwell said. "If you're talking about drugs, they don't listen. They want to know this information, because they are facing it."


Be concerned if a child: • Comes home with torn, damaged or missing pieces of clothing, books or other belongings.

•Has unexplained cuts, bruises and scratches.

•Has few, if any, friends with whom he or she spends time.

•Seems afraid of going to school, walking to and from school, riding the school bus, or taking part in activities with peers such as clubs or sports.

•Loses interest in school work or suddenly begins to do poorly in school.

•Appears sad, moody, teary or depressed; loses appetite.

•Complains frequently of headaches, stomachaches or other physical problems and has trouble sleeping.


•Don't tell the child to ignore the bully.

•Don't blame the child for the bullying.

•Empathize with the child, saying the bully is wrong and it's not the child's fault. Don't criticize.

•Don't encourage physical retaliation.

•Contact a school administrator and share concerns about the bullying.

Friday, February 26, 2010

Can a "real man" be artistic?

Fascinating article by Ricky Chelette, from Living Hope Ministries.

Real men: rough and tumble males who are interested in full contact sports with wounds that are still visible when they are forty. But where do we get such a narrow view of what it means to be a man? Can artistic men be real men? Ask a boy in grammar or middle school and the answer is a resounding NO! In our modern American culture, young boys are rarely encouraged to pursue the arts and are expected to be what our world calls "real men."

Granted, throughout history there are always more men needed to build the walls, the castles, the homes and the cathedrals than men to decorate them. But what would any of those structures be if not for the artistic men who designed them, captured the beauty and grandeur of God's created splendor, and transferred that splendor onto walls and ceilings and sculptures grand and small? And what would life be like without the melodies, the dancing and acting of those whose movements and melodies can soothe the savage heart or help lift the soul to the very presence of the Father? Real men are tough, but they are also artistic, gifted, and sensitive!

Can you imagine a world without beauty? Can you imagine a world without music, art, or dance? Before the foundations of the world the Lord designed into the hearts of man the gifts that allow men and women to be artisans. Some would hear the sounds in a meadow and form them into a beautiful melody. Some would see the setting of the sun or flowers blooming in a field and capture the beauty and majesty of those colors in a painting. Others would watch the wind-tossed trees and plants bending to and fro to the rhythm of an incoming storm and mimic those movements in effortless dance. In each instance, they would capture something of the beauty and mystery of our created world and express them in creative ways that echoed and amplified the magnificence of our Creator.

Artistic men = real men. Our world often looks at them with a great amount of contempt, especially when they are young. But where would our world be without them?

In His infinite wisdom, God gifted some men with particular gifts to express his beauty, melody, order and movement in the world. In Exodus 35:30-35 we read,

30 Then Moses said to the Israelites, "See, the LORD has chosen Bezalel son of Uri, the son of Hur, of the tribe of Judah, 31 and he has filled him with the Spirit of God, with skill, ability and knowledge in all kinds of crafts- 32 to make artistic designs for work in gold, silver and bronze, 33 to cut and set stones, to work in wood and to engage in all kinds of artistic craftsmanship. 34 And he has given both him and Oholiab son of Ahisamach, of the tribe of Dan, the ability to teach others. 35 He has filled them with skill to do all kinds of work as craftsmen, designers, embroiderers in blue, purple and scarlet yarn and fine linen, and weavers--all of them master craftsmen and designers.

And we also see David, one who could be considered a "man's man" in one camp -- killing giants (1 Sam. 17) and having many women (2 Sam. 5), -- yet musical (1 Sam. 16:23) and so expressive that he would dance before the Lord (2 Sam. 6:14).

The truth is that men are created in the image of God and an obvious part of that image is the creative aspect our Father imparted to us. I am convinced we are most manly when we are most creative; when we have an opportunity to express ourselves or create something that seemingly wasn't there before.

The problem artistic men face in our culture and in the church is that we have allowed the definition of a real man to be fashioned by some Hollywood caricature of invincible strength, stoic emotions and rampant hedonism. Such a definition is far removed from the creative Heavenly Fathers reflection and Biblical revelation.

In Genesis 2:19 we see the first man created by the Father and placed in the Garden of Eden. His first assignment is to go and name the animals God has created. The Word tells us that [God] brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name.

Real men are not defined by their ability to leap tall buildings in a single bound, be the last man standing at the fight club, or experience grave heartache without ever shedding a tear. Real men, according to Gen. 2:19, reflect the beauty and glory of the Father by speaking truth into the chaos of life and giving it form and direction. Adam did just that for the creatures of the earth and that is what artistic men do when they see the beauty of God's creation and gather from it the colors, sounds, movements and images to recreate something that reflects the glory of the Father. It is a shame we have believed a lie from the devil about real men and relegated these gifted men to some lesser category, or some kind of less-than status. No wonder so many of these gifted and talented men, searching for a place to belong and be celebrated, are drawn to some alternative lifestyle. How sad. We are all living but one life -- the one given to us by the Father. There is no alternative. How sad that we would miss the beauty and contributions of our brothers who might not fit some narrow and distorted view of real men. We are the lesser for their exclusion and we are missing the beauty, the expression, the mystery that each of them was created to express within the body of Christ -- that gifting, designed by the Father, to cause all men and women not to praise the creature, but the Creator!

Instead of labeling these young men as different, special, sweet, precious, or gay, and solidifying their "other-than-ness," let us embrace them for the God-gifted and talented men they are. The Body of Christ needs these men to help us express and see the fullness of God. When they are missing among us, we are missing something of the Father.

Real men: They are masculine, truth speakers, emotional, problem solvers, artistic, courageous, expressive, dancers, fighters, lovers, warriors, musicians, hunters, artists, leaders, actors; strong, sensitive, and designed to beautifully and mysteriously reflect the glory of God in our broken and fallen world. Real men are not simply measured by their posing, but by their humble posture before the Father who they seek to reflect to all the world.

So when you see a young man who is expressive, sensitive, emotive, musical, artistic, etc., walk over to him and thank him for helping you see the glory of God in the beauty of creative expression. By affirming his giftedness you will bless a young soul and assure a bit more of God's beauty expressed through a real man!

Friday, January 29, 2010

Thin Places by Mary DeMuth

I have a friend, Patrick DeMuth, who's wife Mary has written a powerful new memoir. Dynamic Dads recommends this new book.

Friday, January 22, 2010

9 year old boy commits suicide due to bullying

What a sad story from Dallas. Apparently, a 9 year-old boy has committed suicide and reports are emerging that he took his own life because he was being bullied. All Dynamic Dads need to warn their children about both the effects of bullying and being bullied. Schools should have a zero-tolerance regarding bullying. - Dr. Paul Pettit

Counselors will be on hand today at a Colony elementary school where a 9-year-old student died after apparently hanging himself in a bathroom.

A staff member at the school found Montana Lance of the Colony unconscious about 1 p.m. Thursday in the nurse's bathroom at Stewart’s Creek Elementary. No students saw the boy, school district spokeswoman Karen Permetti said.

Montana was taken to Baylor Medical Center at Carrollton, where he was pronounced dead, police said.

This morning, many parents dropping their children off at the school, in the 4400 block of Augusta Drive near North Colony Boulevard and Main Street, were unaware of the death.

Stephanie Rodriguez said a PTA meeting was canceled last night without explanation. She said the fourth-grader's death was hard to fathom.

"It's very sad," she said. "I just can't imagine why this happened."

Rodriguez, the PTA treasurer, said her 9-year-old son was so troubled by the incident that he had to sleep with her last night.

Permetti said a letter would be sent to parents today informing them of the death.

"This family is in our thoughts and prayers at this time with their grief," she said.

Students, parents and staff members at the school will have the chance to speak to grief counselors today and throughout next week.

Permetti said she was unaware whether Montana was a victim of bullying.

"Our district is extremely proactive in any bullying activity," she said. "We just don't tolerate that."

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

A life lesson for Sen. Scott Brown

Scott Brown is the new Senator from Massachusetts. His father and his grandfather were active Republicans. His father has said that young Scott became interested in running for political office in the mid 1960s while accompanying him on a campaign for state office; Scott Brown recalls holding campaign signs for his father.

Brown has said that he "didn't grow up with all the advantages in life" and that his working mother needed welfare benefits for a short time. During various periods of his childhood, Brown also lived with his grandparents and his aunt. Brown has stated that at the age of twelve he was brought before Judge Samuel Zoll in Salem, Massachusetts for shoplifting record albums.

Zoll asked Brown if his siblings would like seeing him play basketball in jail, and required him to write a 1500 word essay on the topic as his punishment. Brown said, "That was the last time I ever stole, the last time I ever thought about stealing... The other day I was at Staples, and something was in my cart that I didn’t pay for. I had to bring it back because.... I thought of Judge Zoll."