Wednesday, February 26, 2020

What is Christ-Centered Masculinity?

What is Christ-Centered Masculinity?

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Tuesday, September 10, 2019

The Back-to-School rush is on...

With five children, mornings before school started were often hectic. And the night before? many times did one of our kids say, "Hey, I need a white poster board for an assignment by tomorrow morning!" Ugh...
This article is a reminder, from our friends at Family Living Today, to stay organized during the critical back to school days... your children will thank you later.

Friday, August 30, 2019

What happens if Social Security fails?

A wonderful challenge from my friend, Herb Reece: What happens if the government cuts back on Social Security payouts? Will the local church step up?


Churches, Take Note: There’s Talk of Cutting Social Security

Photo courtesy Marco Verch
By: Herb Reece
I’ve been saying for many years that America’s churches have abdicated to the federal government their responsibility to provide for the needs of their widows, widowers, and others. Biblically speaking, the church has the responsibility to guarantee the well-being of those in its midst with long term pressing needs. (See, for example, 1 John 3:16-18; Titus 3:14; Acts 4:34, 6:1-6; 1 Timothy 5:1-15, etc.) The church has increasingly been marginalized in American culture because it has been disobedient in this role. For example, how many churches do you know with a “widow’s list” as described in 1 Timothy 5?
In its place, the federal government has stepped in to provide a Social Security “safety net” for the elderly and disabled. For decades, that safety net has worked fairly well. Social Security is one of the government’s most popular programs. But with a national debt standing at over 22 trillion dollars and another 1 trillion or so being added to it every year, the federal government is going to have to cut something.
Recently, President Trump has proposed cutting Social Security and Medicare.
Republicans on Capitol Hill say Donald Trump may be willing to cut Social Security and Medicare if he wins in 2020, reportedly describing the potential move as a “second-term project.” (Yahoo News, August 29, 2019)
I’m not here to get into politics, nor to discuss the merits and demerits of cutting Social Security. What I do want to say is that America’s churches have a golden opportunity to step up to the plate and assume their biblically mandated responsibility once again. If every church in America took financial responsibility for replacing any cuts to Social Security for just five of their widows, that would be 1.5 million widows the church would be helping.
Replacing for its widows the money the government cuts from Social Security may sound like a radical concept. But it’s not a radical biblical concept. It’s just the church doing what the church is supposed to do.
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Monday, April 01, 2019

UnPlanned Movie Surprises Hollywood

The Pure Flix movie, UnPlanned, opened with a surprisingly strong box office this weekend. With the proliferation of new movie and television outlets, faith-based media options are now more popular than ever. Families currently enjoy the freedom to bypass the previous limited options coming out of Hollywood and are able to choose their own entertainment offerings. Companies such as Pure Flix, offer streaming media available in monthly package deals. (
The controversial pro-life movie, UnPlanned, was expected to bring in approximately $3Million this weekend but instead opened with a surprising $6M opening weekend. What does this trend portend for the traditional Hollywood media outlets? Watch UnPlanned trailer here...

Sunday, December 30, 2018

Holy Sexuality

Dynamic Dads recommends this new work by Moody Bible Institute professor Christopher Yuan:
Holy Sexuality by Christopher Yuan

Thursday, September 22, 2016

The Ridiculous Crusade for Gender-Neutral Toys

(a very interesting article from: Acculturated Magazine)

Parenting: The Ridiculous Crusade for Gender-Neutral Toys (By: Jonathan V. Last) Gender-neutral toys Christina Hoff Sommers—who literally wrote the book on the war on boys—notes that there’s a movement afoot to de-gender toys. Target has pulled the “boys” and “girls” labeling from their toy aisles. The White House recently hosted a “summit” on the perils of gender-specific toys. Time proclaims that “the next generation of kids will play with gender neutral toys.” This is crazy on two counts. First, the kind of people who obsess about gender-neutral toys don’t, as a demographic fact, have many children. In America these days, childbearing tends to be the counter-cultural province of people who aren’t social justice warriors. Second, even if you give kids gender neutral toys, they’ll gender the heck out of them on their own. Trust me, I know. In my house, we’re basically hippie parents. We don’t read Dag Hammarskj√∂ld to the kids at bedtime, but we do use a “peace rose” to, as the consultants say, facilitate reconciliation following interpersonal conflict. We favor natural fibers for linens and clothing, occasionally have family meetings where we whiteboard our concerns, and are suckers for the organic food scam. The kids go to a hippie Montessori school where they “choose their own work” and don’t get grades. And we’ve always favored the kind of constructive, creative toys that the non-gender toy people love. Not on purpose, mind you—this wasn’t an ideological decision, it just sort of happened. My son has never owned a single action figure and my daughters own only one Barbie doll, which was a gift from a relative close enough that we couldn’t return it. Yet it turns out that gender stereotypes exist for a reason. When he was four, our eldest, a boy, discovered that sticks make for highly effective swords. Later he realized that the removable flag from the Safety Turtle was an even better weapon, since it could be used as a sword, spear, or lance. Every time he went outside he made himself a weapon and went off to battle imaginary villains. His sisters, meanwhile, gravitated toward decidedly less aggressive play. They use sticks as fairy wands and carry little Ziploc baggies of glitter which they sprinkle as “pixie dust.” In their games, there are no “bad guys,” only perilous situations— “Don’t fall off that cliff!”—where they have to help one another with their “magic.” Over the years we’ve noticed that whenever a “non-gendered” toy is introduced into their habitat, the kids appropriate it along stereotypically gendered lines. Example: A few years ago there was a Rainbow Loom craze, where kids took tiny rubber loops and wove them into bracelets. Everyone was doing it. We bought thousands of the things for our kids. The girls wove bracelets that they collected and gave to their friends. The boy also wove bracelets—until he realized that he could use the rubber loops to weave a long elastic cord that he was then able to tie to a flexible piece of wood. He used the Rainbow Loom to build a workable bow. He never made another bracelet. rainbow loom We never taught our kids any of this stuff. They just arrived at it on their own. Because—I understand that this is a radical concept—boys and girls are different. As I stare at my children’s play room right now, here are the toys I see: A 5-foot-tall cloth teepee; a large set of Magna-Tiles; a Q-Ba-Maze; Moluk Bilibos (which are even weirder than whatever you’re picturing right now); and about 30,000 Legos. Like I said, we’re hippies. moluk bilibo Here is what the children do with those toys: All of them use the teepee, the girls as a “fairy house” and the boy as a fort. The girls use the Magna-Tiles to build interesting geometric shapes. The boy most recently used the pieces from the Q-Ba-Maze—which is a modular marble-maze contraption—to build a “laser blaster.” And when it comes to Legos? The girls spend hours designing princess castles and houses, with intricate rooms for their Lego minifigures. The boy has created a series of fighter jets, each one with more missiles and cannons and bombs than the last. One of the oddities of modern life is that polite society currently insists that you are “born this way” if you are homosexual or misgendered. But when it comes to boys who like to play with swords and build fighter jets? For some reason, this is viewed as a societal construct that should be eradicated so that they’ll want to play with dolls. As we’ve discovered at my house, this is a project that’s doomed to fail.